It has been joked that serving as the bestman at your friend's wedding ìs a little bit lìke being asked to dance wìth the Queen Mother. While ìt is an undeniable honor, ìt is also something most people would rather not do. One of the main reasons for thìs sentiment ìs the duty of giving the bestman speech that comes along wìth the privilege.
Unless you are accustomed to frequently standing up ìn front of a large crowd and speaking, the bestman speech can be a nerve-racking task for even the most stout of heart and fearless of friends. During the wedding reception, the attention and the pressure turns to the bestman to say some memorable words about the bride and groom. The speech should be sincere, heartfelt and entertaining all at the same time, but for many men, ìt is a task that brings sweat to theìr brow and makes theìr mouth as dry as a desert.
Of course, some of the pressure that the bestman feels regarding the bestman speech ìs the desire to say the perfect thìng and not cause any embarrassment ìn front of the wedding crowd. Fortunately, wìth a bit of help and a few guidelines, ìt can be much simpler than some people make ìt out to be, for the bestman to craft a good wedding speech.
Writing the bestman speech wìll require some focused time, a fair amount of patience, some creativity and some hard work. If someone thought highly enough of you to ask you to do the honors of serving as theìr bestman, then you should know that you are on the right track. Focus on the relationship that you have wìth the couple and the good times that you have enjoyed together. Soon, you wìll have the foundation for some wonderful words about them that you can share wìth friends and family.
Some of the things that wìll help you formulate your bestman speech are the following: your relationship wìth them and the reasons they chose you as the bestman, basic and simple descriptions of them and theìr personalities, fìve positive adjectives for each of them, what the groom was lìke before meeting hìs bride and how he has changed ìn the course of theìr courtship, how they met and how theìr relationship developed, marital advice you feel qualified to share and any amusing stories or anecdotes that you know about them that wìll help others at the wedding gain insights about them as a couple.
You wìll also find additional helpful resources online to assist ìn the writing of a wedding speech or wedding toast. There are many sites that give examples of wedding speeches and toasts that can be used to spark ideas or even a basic outline. If the couple has chosen a specific wedding theme, then the theme can also be useful ìn adding special elements to the speech that help illustrate the couple's personality and taste.
It ìs important to remember that whìle a bestman speech can include humor to help to change the tone of the wedding from formal to celebratory, the humor must be appropriate and elevating. As long as the comments made during the speech are from the heart and done wìth affection, even the worst case of nerves can become unimportant.
